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For what it's worth, a close friend of mine has said for years that she's going to show up to my wedding in cosplay. I told her to go for it.

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How fun to look back on things like this. At my wedding, I wore all black. The Husbear wore black. Nearly all of guests wore all black. I didn't even know that it was a faux pas to wear black to a wedding until so many guests were asking me if it was okay. Regarding my wedding party, I told them the dress code was, and I quote, "I don't give a heck what you wear, so long as it's all black. Wear a bathrobe for all I care. I just want you comfy, happy, and in black." 🤣

I went to a wedding about 15 years ago, and the redheaded bride wore a champagne silk satin dress: It was an absolutely exquisite combination 🤗

But on the question of "should you be more formal than the bride and bridegroom" I remember watching some of the TV specials in the leadup to William and Kate's wedding, and one of them followed "an ordinary wedding guest" (a shopkeeper from Kate's hometown) as he and his wife got their wedding outfits. They're ethnically Indian, so she wore a sari, but the husband went to a bespoke tailor on Saville Row to get a suit made. They talked about how William and Kate had requested the guests NOT wear morning dress (because they thought it was old-fashioned and stuffy), but the shopkeeper was going to wear a morning suit anyway. Because it's a *Royal Wedding* and that is what is *appropriate*. You can't just go to a royal wedding in a regular suit! And the tailor heartily endorsed this.

My family is from Norway, and the 19th Century was the rise of the folk costume as A Thing Of National Pride in Scandinavia. Many of those folk costumes are black (or other dark color) with embroidery. All are based on late-18th Century clothes with small regional variations. I would bet a great deal that that's what was going on.

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i would avoid white, black, and scarlet.

Bridal costumes in European folk costume can get pretty wild. I went to a folk costume museum in Serbia last year and some of the bridal outfits were covered in coins or involved insanely elaborate headdresses.

The best part about Jewish weddings is the dancing. Nobody expects you to be good, just to get out on the dance floor and have fun.

I’m planning on making my wedding dress, and intend to be able to wear it for formal events afterward. I’m thinking of a green dress

My husband has a book with photos of his ancestors from about 1890 when they came over from Norway and settled in the American Midwest. As the men got married, each of their brides wore the exact same purple gown initially belonging to the husbands' sister (photos are sepia, but a family member kept a journal) that was temporarily altered for her. So there's a decade's worth of photos from 8 different weddings where there's different couples, same dress.

Loved it!

In the picture taken of my grandparents at their wedding in 1909, my grandmother and her attendant are both wearing what look like Edwardian white dresses. It was a Lutheran wedding. Both my grandparents were first generation Americans from Sweden.

I lived with out running water for 2 years and it FUCKING Sucked ass. I had to carry two 5 Gallon jugs through the woods to my neighbour house to feel them up with his Watering hose.

this was fun--tyvm!!

The last wedding I attended was for my nephew and his husband. They got married on Halloween, and encouraged guests to come in costume. I had made a forest green 13th century kirtle and fashioned a veil out of linen leftover from making the shift. I spent all evening saying , no, I’m a medieval lady, not a nun, lol. I’ve always been curious about the custom of breaking a glass in Jewish weddings. I’m not sure if that’s a thing only in some sects or a standard thing. If you have any information on that or a reliable place to look for the answer, I’d love to know. Have fun at the wedding! It’s been my experience that queer weddings are such a fun and joyous celebration of newly gained rights. Wishing the couple all the joy and happiness!

This one was clever and entertaining

Don't wear white. Don't propose at the reception. Do not announce your pregnancy.

My mother-in-law wore a white linen shift dress with a floral border to my wedding. Even though I was a small wedding (35 guests), it was *very* obvious she wasn't the bride! I guess the no-white rule depends on the level of formality expected of the guests - if it's going to be very fancy, a long white dress can easily be mistaken for a wedding dress so it's best avoided. Otherwise I don't think it matters!

As for curiosities aboutother Victorian fashion, I think maybe you have videos on all of them? Mourning attire, duration. Accessories & other protocols Esp. Black new or dyed Was (lack ofl comfort a part of mourning Hair jewelry Other memorial practices related to fashion, or fashion-tangential Common/lower class fancier clothes/fashion advice for "dressing up" when no nice clothes are available Costumes & accessories worn to costume balls

I got married in jeans and my favorite black blouse! My first wedding my bridesmaids wore black.... I am decidedly not one for tradition 😂

A lot of the instances I have come across regarding colors that shouldn't be worn, are rules for A holes who are going to show up in white to try and upstage the bride, or black funeral attire to show they are morning the marriage. A case of crazy is going to crazy but at least every else can know they are crazy.

Not to flex but the only weddings I’ve been to as an adult were gay

I'm lucky I wash my hair once a week.

I think rewearing your wedding dress is a great idea

I'm also going to my first wedding (for my cousin) in a few weeks. i have my outfit figured out (sans finalizing accessories), but the whole social etiquette has been stressful for my autistic ass lol. my wedding will 100% not be like this i will be telling everyone to dress like it's a ren faire

Ive always followed the "Dont wear white" and it's never been an issue. I mean, it's one day, one party. It really shouldn't be a problem to avoid one color for one day. Why go out of your way to cause ripples on someone elses day.

I would add that white - being harder and more expensive to maintain in clean condition, would have been more easily available to the upper classes. Therefore, though I don't think I have heard anyone say it; I do believe that a white gown in general would not have been popular with the lower classes, as they would not likely have had the time and money for proper care of a white gown to be worn several times, needing to be cleaned between uses. Victorian and pre-Victorian wedding dresses were many different colors. My great grandmother's (in the late 1800's) was a grey-ish steel blue. I have seen pictures of brides in blues, pinks, and even reds for their wedding day. The color of the dress was far less important than the flowers. Also, there is is symbolism assigned to the other dress colors as well.

Nobody cares about white at a UK wedding. They care more about not wearing black, because that means you hate the bride. some wedding traditions are stupid. It's a bloody dress.

Pretty much all of my wedding attire knowledge (outside of wedding dresses themselves) comes from reddit's Am I the Asshole posts, and my fun "fact" is that apparently, if you were red (I'm assuming a bright red) to a wedding as a female presenting person, it means that you slept with the groom before. That may be more of a southern thing. No one said anything when I wore a red polka dot dress to my cousin's wedding.

White became the color because of monarchist propaganda, gotcha.

Very infirmative, thank you. What about the topic of gender bias clothing, i.e. an event where the wearer is attired in clothing suppossedly for the opposite gender or has aspects of clothing for the opposite gender. Such as a wedding where the men attending wish to wear dresses and the women wearing suits. Or any other formal event that requires the guests to be fittingly attired. Hope that makes sence.

I remember hearing that, although blue had been used as a symbol of purity in earlier times, Victoria decided against it as blue (as a symbol of purity) was the colour most commonly associated with pictures of the Virgin Mary, and she didn’t want to be seen as a Catholic sympathiser. Red (the colour of life and fertility) had also often been worn at wedding, but Victoria had worn red for her coronation, and wanted her wedding to be seen as a union between man and wife, not Queen and subject. She chose white because it held no symbolism at all, so couldn’t be misconstrued. After the royal wedding, all the brides wanted to wear white because that was what the Queen had worn.

Good for you girl

We had a hike-in wedding and now I never want to attend another fancy dress wedding again. No pomp, just comfy clothes, good times with friends, and all the dogs and kids. 12/10, would recommend 😄

I think the white dress she held up gets even more of a free pass because most women get married in floor length dresses made of nonpatterned fabric. But also it's a gay wedding so who cares? It looks cute!

3:35 her sense of time is getting messed up from all the time traveling

Some years back (the 1980s) my immediate supervisor -- and friend -- was criticized for an outfit choice to wear to a wedding by her sister because it was white. I saw it and it was not entirely white, but blue and white striped! Needless to say, I was appalled by her sister's criticism especially when her sister was going to wear black lace! P.S.: Fast forward 40 years later -- I think that the black and white dress you pulled out is charming!

It is very interesting that so much of what we think of as a wedding in the West is so recent.

My paternal grandmother wore a purple dress to her wedding. Family lore is divided on her reasoning when white was the standard by then (maternal gran wore white), with some thinking it was a Sunday Best situation, others thinking it had to do with some patriarchy-induced shame about bad things that happened to her as a very young child. My hope is that it was an intentional choice to spite her uptight family.

I've been to a *LOT* of family weddings, christnings and funerals. I wear what I want (though I've never worn white except as a shirt/blouse). My family members have come to formal ceremonies wearing everything from suits and full formal gowns to tracksuits in bright pink (yes, I've seen that at a funeral). Aside from the variations of traditional wedding dresses, there have been brides dressed in pastel "office suits" (one in slacks) with a lacy or floral-topped facinator. One cousin and her bridesmaids wore camo and jeans. Most of my cousins don't care what you wear, they're just happy you showed up. Re: Black at a wedding. I've worn a black dress to a wedding (floral fabric). I went with my Grandmother and Aunt to pick a dress out, and I came out of the dressing room and they both said "That's lovely, you look charming."- and my Aunt was a stickler for proper etiquette.

A white wedding dress is lovely. My soft white wedding dress was going to be made of natural fabrics and in a style so it could be worn afterwards (I'm not spending that much money on a dress I wear only once) *and* it was going to be dyed a nice blue after the wedding. I also had plans to bead it so it would be "fancier" for the ceremony and I'd remove it after. Suffice it to say, I never got married (though it was close a couple times)..

In Korea, it was traditional to wear red at the wedding. Those dresses were *heavily* embroidered so there was no way you could upstage a bride Fun fact: those particular dresses were only reserved for royalty, but peasant girls were allowed to wear them on their wedding day so they can be a princess for a day. There was a dedicated place where those wedding clothes were kept and you could go borrow them for your wedding ceremony

Yes, we scandinavians did wear black wedding dresses!! I haven't read too much on the topic, but it's still a tradition in some southern regions where traditional dress still lingers as festive wear.

To preface: I really love my mother in law even though she can sometimes be a lot, especially when she’s excited about something. So when I was planning my wedding I remember her being almost horrified that my mother was planning to wear a black dress. I couldn’t have cared less, especially since the dress suited my mom’s typical style. And I wanted her to feel comfortable in what she wore. The funniest part about it to me was that my mother in law wore this dark navy dress that I would have mistaken for black if she hadn’t had that reaction to my mother’s dress color.

The only thing I know about weddings is something I read in Emily Post from last century, A new bride wears white, if she gets married again she wears Ivory and a third time Turquoise. She doesn't say what comes next. I guess, Honey three times, just give up.

Fun fact: white has been traditional for Jewish weddings (particularly Ashkenazi) longer than for xtian weddings. But in Jewish weddings white doesn't have the creepy misogynist "I have an intact hymen" symbolism. Both the bride and groom wore white for the same reason we frequently wear white for Yom Kippur: to symbolize a blank sheet of parchment with all of our recorded sins erased. A couple's wedding day is supposed to be their own personal Yom Kippur, and Orthodox couples will still fast until after the ceremony, so that they go into their new life together with a blank slate, or blank parchment, with all of their sins from their individual lives erased.

As a former wedding photographer, my advice is to follow the cues of your invitation (the printing, any instructions, the type of venue), what folks involved in the wedding are saying about how the wedding party is approaching the wedding (my/our big day or joy-centered celebration), and just don't overdo it. Also, wear shoes that you can be in for the whole day and reception or have a change of shoes in the car for between the wedding and reception. Simple flats or sandals are fine if heels do not love your feet!